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I’ve slowly become the kind of person who never makes progress. We often think a single event changes our perspective on things, or that one day we wake up and suddenly become “a workaholic” or an addict of some sort.
But no.
Each day, each decision moves us from the present into the future, and at the same time creates our past. We don’t change on a single day - we’re always changing.
Yeah, sure, you can tell me about traumatic events that radically altered people’s perception of life.
What about the people who have very similar events occur in their lives, but express polar reactions?
So, when I say I am slowly becoming the kind of person who never makes progress, it’s because one decision at a time, I have become convinced that I need something special for me to finally become the person I need to be.
To be more specific, I have been feeling for a long time that my writing wasn’t improving. I have even wondered if I was ever any good.
To be even more clear, it’s not really a “feeling”, it’s been self-talk.
I’m sure you’ve read here when I talked about this in some form. Where I tried to find what you want to read from me. Or when I tried different ideas and sounded really desperate to be inspired.
The truth is, I talked myself into this state. One day at a time.
So, now what?
The solution is pretty obvious isn’t it?
I’ll talk my way back.
I’ll talk my way into the person I want to become.
I’m currently reading “Personality Isn’t Permanent” by Benjamin P. Hardy, PhD.
Maybe it’s because I felt the need to work on myself. Maybe the book was just well written. But I’m doing the exercises, journaling, and finding out how I have been seriously sabotaging my own life and progress.
We’re such powerful creatures - we were made with amazing potential. Each person has the DNA to change the world. Everyone is special.
It’s this power, if poorly understood, that leads to our ruin.
By not understanding how our brains work, we easily become addicts - without even our knowledge. And even when we do find out what’s stopping us from making progress, without the proper changes, we stay in the rut.
By not realizing how trauma affects us ( both big and small) we simply tell ourselves stories of the past that are incredibly detrimental to our future.
I send this to you on a Wednesday after weeks of procrastination. I caught myself saying: Oh well, just write it and send on Monday as you promised.
I was already convincing myself to not do something that I know is important to me and to you.
Writing this is step in the direction I know I should be taking.
The end goal, as the title of this email shows, is painting the image of who I want to be and acting like that person - right now.
You see, when you set goals above your current level, your mindset has no other option but to shift. You’re not yet there, so, your imagination has to fill the gap.
What would a writer do? What would a successful husband do? What would an incredible host sound like? How would they practice? How much work would they put in? What would they read?
I highly recommend this book and when I finish it, I’ll make a video on my channel to share how it has profoundly impacted not just my relationship with my wife, but that with my writing as well.
The cool thing about the lessons is that as painfully aware as I am that I am not yet where I could be, by thinking about who I could become, I can tap into the confidence I am yet to achieve.
The way I make decisions has changed very subtly. Where I used to feel enormous guilt to say no, I think: what would future Kamga do? ( By the way, he’s way more confident and wise than I am).
When I tap into that future ideal, and act now, my actions are more in tune with my actual potential.
That is how you can change your life - if you want to.
If you’re not happy with where things are. If you’re feeling like you’re wasting time on earth. Build the image of your ideal self and then start making decisions from that state.
You’d be surprised how each day would keep getting better and better.
The key thing to know about this exercise is that you will never “become” that version of yourself.
Remember, this is just a mental image. Also, once you become “that” version, guess what?
You can tap into an even wiser future ideal version of yourself.
This is how you improve forever. This is how I am choosing to look at personal growth.
Become your ideal version, now.
I have a favor to ask. I know - incredulous out of the blue, yeah?
Well, I’ll just ask and you can say no.
I’m very close to 1000 subscribers on YouTube and I got this thought that I could hit this milestone before October.
I know - crazy!
I need just 33 more people to make this happen. If you’re reading this, you’ve probably subscribed to my channel in which case, there’s no need to convince you.
However, you probably know 1 person - just ONE - who could enjoy the videos I make there.
All I’m asking is that you share a video from my channel that you’ve enjoyed with someone who probably has no clue I exist.
This will be a huge boost for the journey I’m on and I will be forever grateful. The videos are all free, you can watch anytime. They will be free forever.
All I ask is your attention - which is a lot, I know.
So, yeah. Here’s the link to my channel. Share with friend.
Or two.
Thank you!